I planned to have my first ever sleepover party this weekend (because I was a wildly unpopular child and Angela and Pdov were kind enough to indulge my insanity) and attend the New England Patriots game. As we were planning sleepover activities, Angela told me not to obsess about it, basically, if I didn’t call my mom to come get me, it was a success. Sadly, I was three quarters of the way up to my friend’s house in Massachusetts, when Cee called to say they had found Avery’s body. I pretty much cried my face off the whole night and was sure that I was gonnna make my mommy come get me.
Without being too ridiculously melodramatic here, since I can’t begin to fathom the grief of his family and close friends, I am still cycling between incredulity and misery. I just can’t believe it. Still. Betty White appeared on a MTV awards show about a day after Rue Mclanahan died. I commented that I thought it was inappropriate, but someone responded, when you reach a certain age, your friends die, you accept it and move on. Avery is the first contemporary friend of mine who has died, so…maybe I am allowed to take some time digesting it all. Ugh.
Anyway, below I’ve reposted a news article about his disappearance and discovery. Thanks a billion to everyone who retweeted, reposted, blogged or tumblred his missing notice. And, also to all my friends who checked in on me this weekend, times like these it’s comforting to know that I’m part of such an awesome community.
Love, peace, and chickengrease.
My college roommate Linda, found this article about Avery’s death.
It’s in Chinese, so my other roommate, Elena, did a quick and crude translation:
The police has found on the Hudson River near the 25th pier by Chamber street, a body that was the reported missing 35 year old Avery Man. The police has informed the family yesterday The police said that the body was found on the 29th around 4:17 p.m. When discovered, the person has lost total consciousness, and later verified as dead. The police is still investigating this matter.
Avery Man left his sister’s house on Greenwich St on the night of Oct. 22nd, 9 p.m. Since then, he has been missing. The family has put out the missing person posters around China town, and has reported to the Floral Park police department where he lived. However there has not been any leads. According to people who knows the family, at the time of the incident, Avery’s parents were in China visiting family. The parents have quickly returned from the trip, and after hearing the police report, they were devastated. According to the relatives Avery is a gentle, optimistic person; it’s mpossible that he has killed himself.
Originally they thought he might have been in a car accident and can’t get a hold of the family. They didn’t expect that he would be dead, and not knowing what really happened. 35 year old Avery Man is 5’9″, 125 lbs wearing a black jacket and brown pants when he was reported missing. Avery was born in the US. He moved from Queens to his current residence 22 years ago. He is still single and enjoys traveling. He is studying eastern medicine and acupuncture at a college in Manhattan, and has been practicing at a clinic.
She then added this commentary on the story which made me smile.
PS this Chinese newspaper wrote that the police found a “middle age” Asian man’s body. Wait…when 35 is considered middle age?! I am sure Avery’s spirit wouldn’t like that a bit!
I know my spirit is WAY pissed!